The Psychology of Resentment
The Psychology of Resentment
Episode 120
The Meaning of Resentment
Resentment is a natural reaction to unfair or difficult events and to the actions of others. It consists of various experiences, most often of pain and anger, and feelings of guilt, shame, or fear can be mixed with them.
If someone declares that he does not know how to be offended, this means one of two things: either it is not true, or the person does not have a close relationship with anyone. People are not offended by strangers; resentment appears in meaningful relationships.
KEY POINTS
The words people use for emotions influence the ways they think about emotions.
The word "resentment" has negative connotations that can make legitimate anger seem unreasonable.
Calling anger resentment turns potential social failings to individual ones.
Merriam-Webster defines this complex emotion as “a feeling of indignant displeasure or persistent ill will at something regarded as a wrong, insult, or injury.”
Etymologically, “resent” has come to English from French and, originally, from...